Social media etiquette for the modern wedding
March 27, 2017
Wedding etiquette has always been important. From the first moment you make the big announcement through to sending out the thank you cards. Some things change, but wedding etiquette is no less important in the age of social media than it was many years ago. Let’s not make it about hard and fast rules, but here are a few gentle hints that should help keep you on speaking terms with your in-laws and make sure that everyone is celebrating with you, not sulking behind the scenes.
First of all, don’t go posting your happy news on social media before you’ve even told your parents, close friends and family. This could become a lifelong issue if you don’t think about it beforehand. This includes updating your relationship status on Facebook, going to ‘engaged’. Leave it a few days before making it ‘Facebook official.’
When you’re celebrating your forthcoming nuptials on social media, keep it simple. Don’t go into overdrive, sharing every single detail about the plans for your wedding. This is a time for you and your partner, so it is better to keep some things a little private, and your friends and family will love having a surprise with the effort you have put in on the big day.
When it comes to the actual wedding invitations, stick to paper and snail mail. Wedding stationery doesn’t have to be flashy, but it’s a special occasion that warrants an invite that can double as a souvenir. Besides, you can’t always guarantee they will see the invitation when you get in touch via social media, especially any elderly guests who don’t have Facebook!
Wedding preparations can be taxing on the nerves. You might occasionally fall out with your beloved other half along the way. Keep any tensions and conflicts you have with each other off social media, to keep everyone happily looking forward to the day and shopping for their outfit, rather than dreading the possible atmosphere of the celebration.
On the day, guests should remember to be on their best social media behaviour. That means to try and keep the phone checking to a minimum. And if you are going to take lots of photos and share them on social media platforms, make sure they are beautiful and supportive and evidence of a lovely wedding day, which the couple will surely love to see later on. Also, try waiting until the end of the day to do it, or even the day after.
For the bride, the lead up to the wedding, the actual day, and for a short time afterwards, your word is basically the law. Obviously, do not take advantage of this, but you can use it to ask people to remove a picture you don’t like off Facebook. Be polite about it, and they will be happy to accommodate you.
To make things easier for the people who were unable to attend the wedding, you can set up a hashtag to be used across social media, so pictures from the day can be searched for and found easily. This is a really fun and modern way to get everyone interacting with the day.
Remember, even if all your wedding planning goes to plan, the weather can change. But don’t worry, we have some excellent wedding umbrellas to help you out!