Choosing your bridesmaids is one of those big and exciting decisions many girls have dreamed of ever since they first started playing at weddings.


Back then the choices seemed so exciting. You knew you would pick your best friend, or your favourite celebrities, or your four little sisters.

However, now you’re all grown up, the decisions get a little more complicated and it’s not always such a straightforward question. For a start, there are all those expectations over wedding etiquette and protocol, and what your mother wants, and your auntie expects, or what your family have always done.

It’s definitely true that you can follow with the traditions and do your best to please everyone, but at the end of the day it is your wedding. Here are some of the factors you might want to bear in mind.

If you’re looking for a quiet life, start by asking yourself, who are the people that just will have to be your bridesmaids. You might just have to realise that your blood relatives won’t go away and ignoring an obvious contender could create issues in years ahead. On the other hand, if you have legitimate reasons not to want someone to be your bridesmaid, consider tackling this openly and communicating it diplomatically.

But let's say the choice is wide open. What's the role of a bridesmaid? If you have particular anxieties on the day - your hair, or your self-confidence - you might want to choose a bridesmaid who you know you can trust to help bolster your nerve. Are practicalities an issue for you? How about a bridesmaid who can be trusted to have an umbrella on hand, especially when you’re not sure what the weather is going to be like and there are wedding photographs to be taken.

Does your other half have any views on bridesmaids? Okay, it may be nothing to do with them, but a having his close sibling as a bridesmaid could be a nice gesture that builds bridges.

How many bridesmaids should you have? There’s no particular rule on this. Some people have a chief bridesmaid, or Maid of Honour, which is a helpful option if you have a few younger ones that need to be kept in order.

Just make sure that the decision you end up making is one you know you can live with and will help you relax on the wedding day.